How To Have Smart Babies! – Baby Plus Review

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Before you read this watch our Babyplus unboxing and review video.  Now on to our story!

Before we had our first baby we were information junkies. We read books on how to have a happy baby, on what to eat, and what not to eat. We read about what prenatal vitamins were the best and which ones were the worst. If there was a book in Amazon or a video on youtube about it we read it. (For some of the books we read check out our resources page!)

We even read about how to conceive a boy or a girl. YES, there are scientific ways to increase your chances of having a boy or a girl. Yes, every time that we used the information that we gained it worked. (Even on how to have a boy or a girl) Let’s just say that we are information junkies. So when we saw a Babyplus ad we were like, “Wait WHUH?!?!” We can educate our baby while he is still in the womb. We were in! (Well kinda)

At first we were like, “What if this doesn’t work and we are blowing 200 dollars on some useless gadget.” To be honest we didn’t really have 200 dollars to spend on something that wasn’t going to work, but this was our baby and if it would give him a head start we were going to find a way to do it.

So we plopped down the 200 dollars for our Babyplus and we have never looked back. At first we couldn’t tell if anything was different. I mean he was a baby. Everyone thinks that their baby is smart and gifted and all of that stuff, but then we started getting pulled aside by his teachers. They were saying things like. Your son is pretty special and he just seems a little ahead of all of the other kids or he is a real leader in the classroom. We were sold. So three years later we started using our babyplus on our second child and three years after that we used our babyplus on or second son (Who does his montessori work without the tools and gets them right) and with our daughter. Even in her dance class she is being moved up to the next level. She’s only in class for a couple of months.

As my wife says in our BabyPlus Review Video there are a lot of factors that we believe contribute to our little one’s well being and mental stability and strength. BabyPlus is definitely one of them. We believe that they came out with a head start.

We definitely suggest that you get one and use it with your unborn babies. It’s pretty awesome. If you are here after our contest be sure to use our discount code when you purchase your babyplus. Every little bit helps.

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Happy Baby time!

Troy and Elizabeth

How To Calm A Crying Baby! – NO WORDS!!

Another authoritative parenting gold mine! You are going to want to watch this video on how to calm a crying baby!

Absolutely Amazing! Does anyone else see this as a recreation of the womb experience? Either way this is AWESOME!

Here is another calming baby tip!

How to calm a crying baby on an airplane! (Changed Our Lives!)

We used to hate going on trips because we knew that our baby was going to cry on the plane. The jetway to the plane seemed to get longer and longer with every step. You could just feel the energy from the other passengers who we knew were watching us. You could feel the energies of their relief as we walked passed their row. We just knew that they were holding their breath and hoping that we were not going to sit near them.

I knew that our son could feel the energy and that no matter how hard we tried we were destined to fail before we even got started. That was until this amazing thing happened.

One trip I was traveling alone for work and I just happened to have one of those plane rides where your ears just will not pop. I started doing that chewing motion thing that we all do when we are trying to assist our ears with the relieving of pressure. No matter how hard I tried nothing would work. I just blew it off and took a sip of my orange juice and suddenly like a gift from heaven, ouala they popped.

Then it dawned on me. Our son is crying because his ears won’t pop! Plane rides were going to be a breeze! I couldn’t wait to tell my wife, who would naturally say, “I don’t think that’s it.” You know how we spouses do, but to my surprise she said….”Let’s try it.”

Let’s just say… It works and it worked every time. So here is how you can implement it in your life if you have a little one.

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Step 1: Prepare a bottle of liquid (almond milk, breast milk, juice, whatever?)

Step 2: Make sure that you do not feed your baby a lot of food before your trip. You need for them to be willing to drink from the bottle.

Step 3: As soon as the flight is in the air and past the 10k feet point you can remove the bottle. (This is usually about the time that the fasten seat belt sign goes off. Of course use discretion. If your child is still drinking let them drink, but if you can remove the bottle now is the time.)

Step 4: As soon as you begin your initial descent offer the bottle again.

Rinse wash repeat. :-) Give it a sot and let us know how it works for you. Happy traveling!

First Born Child Story – SO AUTHORITATIVE PARENTISH!

I will never forget the birth of our first child.  Being in the hospital with our first born was quite interesting. People have all of these ideas about what they are going to do and what they are going to say and blah.. blah… blah… until the baby gets here. Then all bets are off. As soon as he was here I transformed into the ultimate protective parent. It was quite interesting.

The nurses however had no idea of the personality switch. I guess I should have warned them. HA! The funny thing was that to me it seemed as if the nurses somehow thought that they were entitled to my child. They didn’t know that I was raised by the ultimate authoritative parenting teacher and that like it or not her traits were going to emerge from her first student. So here is how it all went down…

Angry NurseA nurse, who we had never seen before,  entered our room (kinda barged in) and motioned for me to hand her our sleeping son. Who I had been holding for about thirty minutes. (NOT LONG ENOUGH FOR A NEW DAD!)

I was like, “Uhh NO”, but instead I remember saying something like. “What’s going on? Do we need to go somewhere?”… or something like that.

She looked at me in shock and responded, “It’s time for your son to have his bath.” I was like…”But, he is sound asleep.  He’s only been here for 30 minutes. Can this wait?”

She pulled out this brush that looked like the ones that I used to use on my head to make sure that the waves looked good and said, “We need to get all of that gook off of him.” Seeing the brush and feeling her not so friendly energy caused me to quickly jump to my son’s rescue.

“Oh… that’s okay ma’am we will wash him when we get home.” I replied.

“That’s not for another two days!” She exclaimed.

“I know. He will be fine. Besides we would like to wash him for the first time together at home.” I replied.

“But he has all of that stuff all over him.” she responded.

“I know, but I figure that he has had all of that “stuff” all over him for the past nine months. A couple more days won’t hurt him. Besides we would like to give him his first bath together.” I answered.

She looked at me and then turned to the other nurse who was entering the room preparing for this “long-babyawaited” bath and said. “The Father is refusing the bath.” I’ll spare you the rest of the details, but know that we bathed our son together at home for his first bath….no brushes or angry nurses. :-)

Don’t be afraid to claim every experience your child has. They came here to be guided by you and only you. Not grandma and grandpa, not teacher or coach, or aunt or uncle, but mom and dad! You are their guides throughout this life. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Stay awesome!

 

You Get What You Expect…. (Authoritative Parenting)

I will never forget one of the most memorable moments of my life with my late mother Katie Horne.  As you read this remember this… You always get what you expect when it comes to life and parenting. My memorable authoritative parenting / child moment story goes like this….

Katie Horne - Authoritative Parenting TipsI remember bringing all A’s and B’s home one day and showing my mom my report card.  I handed it to her as she sat in her brown lazy boy chair, she glanced at it for a moment, handed it back to me and said, “Good job baby.”  I stood there for a moment or two awaiting the jubilant celebration that I thought that this report card would bring. You know… a parade, a fighter jet air show and possibly a fireworks show. Definitely more than just a “Good job baby.”

I stood there for a minute and then I asked my mom, “Is that it?” She smiled,  looked up at me and said, “Baby, this is what you are supposed to do. You are supposed to bring home grades like these.” and went back to what she was doing. That was one of the best things that she could have ever done for me.

From that moment on I made it a point to work as hard as I could. I was not going to let her down. Why? Because I now knew that excelling was not a special occurrence.  It was what I was supposed to do.  I worked as hard as I could to give her what she expected. Wether you believe it or not your children are doing the same thing.  They are giving you what you expect. You are doing the same thing to yourself with your life and life situations.

Let me give you an example. What if you were walking down the street and a friend of yours or someone that you know ran up to you and shouted in excitement.

“OH MY GOSH!! YOU ARE WALKING DOWN THE STREET! THAT IS SO AMAZING!”

What would you think about that person? You would probably chuckle and say something like…”Uh…yeah…I do it every day. No big deal.” Wether you believe it or not this is also what you are doing with life.  There are things that you expect to happen and probably take for granted. They show up so easily and often that you take them for granted.   The reason they show up so easily and often is because you expect them to. They are supposed to show up. You are “supposed” to have running water. You are supposed to feel healthy. You are supposed to… It shows up because that is what you believe.

One of the best things that we do for our children, and one of the best things that you can do for your children is to set them up for success before every event, class or activity.

Here is what we do, before we take our son to Tae Kwan Do we talk about being focused in class. We talk about what we expect from him while he is in class and what we will expect from him at the end of class. We go over every situation that might be a challenge to reaching that expectation and we tell him how we expect him to handle that situation should it arise.  We do the same thing with our son who plays basketball and we will do the same thing with our daughter.

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In addition to that, we make it a point to stay and watch their lessons and events as often as possible. That is the most important part of this equation.  At the start of any new class, event or activity we make it a point to be present. We stay and watch every lesson, every event, every… until we can see that the behavior matches the/our expectation.  We are talking about actually watching them throughout the entire event.  No sitting and checking Facebook, or Twitter or Instagram. :-) You would be surprised at how many times they check in with you visually when you are there. Then and only then, after we know that the expectation is being met, do we allow them to attend a class or two without us in attendance.  We set the expectation and our children always deliver. Always!

Your children are doing the same.

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How do you change or raise expectations you ask?

It really depends on the age of your children and the amount of time that you have invested in your current parent child dynamic. If you are making the change with teenage children your journey towards new expectations should be a gradual, but it should also be quick. You have less time to help them achieve their greatness. Here are the basic steps for both older and younger kids. The only difference is the speed of implementation.

  • First, you must get clear on what the new expectations will be.
  • Everyone (Parents/Grand Parents/Guardians) must be clear on the goal.
  • Expectations and consequences must be explained to the children before implementation.
  • The new rules and consequences must be carried out as explained. (No editing until after implementation. Our kids are “The Great Debaters” but we get to be the great judge.)
  • Loving words and actions must be shown in the in between moments as often as possible. (This is also key. Non-solicited you are really greats, I like how you dids and I am really proud of you at random times during the day are great confidence builders and will help your child reach the new expectations with ease.)
  • *For teens sometimes current friends will ask them to push back against the new rules and expectations. Always remember that they are not your children, but your children are and they want to please you. Give them an out. Allow them (your children) to blame you for anything that frustrates or puzzles their friends. This was a HUGE gift for me as a kid. Anytime I had to follow the rules and my friends were choosing not to I would say. “Guys it’s my mom. She will kill me if I do _____. She has this new “thing” and she really freaks out when I …. I like you guys and I would also like to be able to hang out with you after today. If I do “this” she might actually kill me (chuckle) and if not, she would probably not let me hang out anymore. I’m gonna head out. See you guys tomorrow.” Being given permission from her to blame her made not getting in trouble a piece of cake.

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Try it. You will be very surprised at the results.

 

Parentpreneur – Who Is Raising Your Kids? – (Authoritative Parenting)

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You had kids to be around them!

You had kids to raise them and to improve their lives with YOUR leadership and guidance, but you find that you spend about 2-3 hours a day with them during the week. You probably spend more time in your car on your morning and evening commutes than you do with your family. You work 40+ hours a week to afford the “luxury” of regretfully dropping your kids off at daycare or at the sitter’s. You find yourself longing for the day that you can just hang out with your children. You dream of taking them on an extended vacation or educational trip where you your whole family goes to India or Europe or Japan for a month just to see what the rest of the planet looks like, but let me share with you a secret. Unless you make it a must like Tony Robbins says. It will never happen….

So, for you… Is it a must that you spend time with your kids, or is it a should? Is it a must that you raise your children with your values, your standards, and your guidance, or is it a should?

For our family it was a must. We were what some would call successful in our various careers, but we barely saw our children. I remember driving an hour to work and an hour home, and hoping to see our first born for maybe thirty minutes before he had to go to bed. (Sound familiar to any of you?) My wife would do the same. We would see each other for maybe an hour or two a day and long for the weekends with the hopes that we could do something on the weekends, but more often than not we were so tired that we spent most of Saturday sleeping in and most of Sunday regretting going to work on Monday.

Meanwhile, our son would come home with all of these ideas that were not in alignment with our vision for his life. Lots of limiting ideas and lots of behavioral traits that where not in alignment with what our family would accept. So we decided to make a change. We decided to take massive action, as Tony says.

We spent many years sacrificing, living in places that were not our dream homes, going without things that we knew would impress the neighbors, or would make others see us as successful. We created our dream business: an amazing acting school that offers professional acting classes in Denver.  We did it during a time of major recession, when most people would say that you can’t build a business. We did it for our children, and we did it because it was a must. Our must was that we would be the ones who would raise our children.

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We are now living our dream. As a parent, and especially a parent who falls into the authoritative parenting world, you must find a way to be with your child more than most parents do. Why? Because as we all know that if you don’t influence your children, someone else will.

The most influential person in your children’s life will be the one that they spend the most time with. Is that you? If not, you will want to examine your RPM.

  • What is the Result you are after?
  • What is the Purpose or reason for getting it? What is your WHY?
  • What is you Massive Action Plan?

Write down your answers to these questions – your RPM. The first two may come easily, while the third may take some serious work. There may be a lot of logistics involved, and you may need to figure it out with the input of other key players in your children’s lives. It may take years to implement, as ours did. However, if your Purpose, or Why, is strong enough for you – if it is a must – your mind will help you find a way.

Leave a comment below. Your children are waiting. :-)

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Your Kid Is Amazing At…

So you have a little one who is excelling at school, sports, or some other activity or area of study and you get the comment. You know… The Comment that many authoritative parents get…. “I wish my child was more like (……) She/He seams so focused and committed to her goal.” After your tenth or twelfth time of hearing this you have learned to say. “Thank you. It’s all her.” Deep down inside you know that this is not the case, but you know that that is the response that most people want to hear.

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More times than you can count you have been privy to the “Oh…I don’t want to push my child” or “He has to lead” or “She will find her own way.” retorts to your truthful “We direct her/him” response and you have no interest in going down that road again. So what do you do?

  • You make sure that you always know your audience. 

It is said that the wisest people take time to observe and know their audience. You don’t have investment conversations with your habitually financially challenged Uncle. You don’t discuss your gluten free diet with your Mc Donald’s loving friends, and you don’t discuss authoritative parenting with your friends who parent otherwise. As my mother would say…

“There are all different kinds of parenting. It all boils down to what you can stand.” – Katie H. 

  •  Associate with more like minded parents.

Birds of a feather flock together. No matter how hard you try. Your children will absorb the traits of their peers. So no matter how much you love Stephanie or Jaleesa, if their kids “Free Range” or “Self Guided” and are constantly out of control and that is not how you parent. Your interactions may need to be sans children.

  • Keep directing your kids the way that you feel best. They are your children and they are here in hopes that they will receive your continued direction. Don’t remove it for anyone.

My sons first preschool teacher gave us a bit of knowledge that confirmed our style of parenting for us. She said and I quote…(Roughly)

“Children are always testing boundaries. They are constantly wondering who is in charge. They really want to know that the answer is not them. They would love it if you would confirm that the answer is you through high expectations, firm boundaries, and discipline. Imagine how scary it would be for a two year old to feel like she was the one in charge of her scary world. That is what you do when you are not an authoritative parent. You abandon them to try to find their way in this world with little or no knowledge of how this world really works. Poor behavior is just fear of the unknown and a call for help.”

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